Marriage Ministry Matters – July 2016

by CMBA-admin on July 31, 2016

Welcome to the CMBA Newsletter!

Luke 15:6

Sometimes we pour heart and soul into our writing and get few comments and shares on social media. At other times, we may quickly whip up a quick and light post that goes viral. It’s hard to know when a post will strike a chord with our readers. Even when we don’t get much in the way of feedback, we can be comforted in the reminder that God may be using our words to reach one couple who is in need of what you have to offer. God cares about one sheep just as much as He cares about the other ninety-nine. He works through you just as much when you reach one couple as when you reach hundreds. What you do matters to marriages.

This issue of Marriage Ministry Matters gives you a list of strategies for conquering writer’s block and introduces you to a recently published book authored by one of our CMBA members.

New Members

The following blog has joined CMBA since our last issue. Be sure to visit and share an encouraging word.

The Lovely Exchange – Meaghan Tate

Please check your listing on the member’s page to make sure that it is accurate and up to date. If it needs to be changed, send an email to Chris at chris@forgivenwife.com.

Online Community

We have decided to take our CMBA support to where the people are–Facebook. We have created a secret group on Facebook just for CMBA members. In a secret group, no one who is not in the group will know you are part of it. This will replace the CMBA Members’ Forum. If you want to be added to the Facebook group, you will need to become Facebook friends with one of the group administrators–at least for long enough for them to add you to the group. Contact one of these folks to be added or to learn more:

Take a look at the files we have posted in the group. The directory allows you to list all your social media accounts so other CMBA members can follow you easily. You’ll also find information about sharing your blog posts on CMBA’s Facebook page.

How Do I . . . ?

Strategies for Conquering Writer’s Block

By Chris Taylor, The Forgiven Wife

Most bloggers have some way of tracking blog post ideas: a small notebook, a file on their computer, Evernote, or post-its covering the desk.

When it’s time to write about one of those ideas, your job as a writer is to transform a topic idea into a full-blown blog post.

Sometimes this is easy. You know exactly what you want to say and how you want to lead your readers through your post. Other times, though, you may encounter writer’s block. Even if you know what point you want to make about your subject, you’re stuck figuring out how to get there.

If you find yourself up against writer’s block, try some of these strategies for coming up with ideas and moving past writer’s block. Better yet, try them before you even start writing and you may find that you can bypass writer’s block altogether.

Brainstorming: This technique involves nothing more than listing every idea that comes into your head when you think about your subject. There is no judgment: even if an idea seems dumb, write it down. Set a timer for three minutes and jot down as much as you can. You’ll end up with a list. It doesn’t dig into a subject or help you figure out how your ideas connect to each other, but it’s a quick way of reminding yourself of what you think about your subject.

Mapping: Write your subject in the middle of a page and draw a circle around it. When an idea occurs to you, write it down, circle it, and draw a line to connect the new idea to the one that triggered it.  Then take that idea and see what thoughts that triggers. A picture is worth a thousand words, so take a look.

If you’re a visual thinker, mapping is a great way to figure out what you have to say.

Mapping to write this post.

Mapping does two important things that brainstorming doesn’t do: 1) it gives you depth, and 2) it shows you relationships between ideas. If you struggle with organization, this is a great way of showing yourself detail and how your ideas connect to each other. Each cluster of bubbles is a potential section of your blog post. Or maybe you’ll see that you have so much to say about different things that you decide to write a series of related posts.

If you’re a visual thinker, this is a great way to figure out what you have to say (as well as which ideas you don’t have as much to say about).

Freewriting: Set the time for five minutes, and start writing. Don’t stop. If something pops into your head that isn’t related to your subject, write about it anyway. The purpose is not to produce content that you will actually use in your blog post; rather, it is to open the connection between your brain and your fingers to help loosen that writer’s block. Sometimes, you may even discover that you’ve written something unexpectedly insightful that will work beautifully in your post. Many seasoned writers will tell you that it’s important to write every day simply because it disciplines your mind and puts you into a habit of “writerly” thinking—even if what you write is low quality.

Ask questions: If you’re sharing a story in your post, you want to be sure to give enough information that your readers can understand. Ask yourself the basic information-gathering questions:

  • What happened?
  • Who was involved?
  • Where did this take place?
  • When did it happen?
  • Why did it happen?
  • How did it happen?

Answering these questions will prepare you to tell your story.

Metaphorical thinking: Okay, folks, this is going to sound weird, but it can really work! Take any object and make a list of its constituent parts. For example, if you think of a tree, the constituent parts might be roots, trunk, branches, leaves, and birds.

Now, take your subject and think of it metaphorically:

  • If [subject] were a tree, what would be the roots? The trunk? The branches? The leaves? The birds that live in the tree?
  • If [subject] were a solar system, what would be the sun? The planets? The moons?
  • If [subject] were an organization, who would be the leader? What would the workers do? What is the primary purpose or service of the organization? Who is on the board?
  • If [subject] were a table, what would be the legs? What makes up the surface? What do we put on the surface?

Here’s an example: If you’re writing about argument in marriage and use the tree metaphor, you would essentially be asking yourself the following: What is the main thing that holds an argument up? What is the foundation for argument? How does an argument branch out into other areas of marriage? What fruit does argument produce? How does argument affect those who live nearby?

As goofy as this may seem, this strategy is wonderful in helping you see your subject from multiple new perspectives.

Draw a picture: You don’t have to be an artist for this to work. Simply draw what it is you’re trying to write about. Drawing helps you tap into different thinking processes than writing and this may be enough to help you move past the writer’s block. Even a poorly drawn image can show you detail and connections that you didn’t even know were in your mind.

Social Media

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Marriage Resource

Have you read J. Parker‘s Hot, Holy, and Humorous yet? Published last month, this book  “gives candid advice for wives on everything from kissing to oral sex to orgasm to sexual positions all from a Christian perspective.” If you write for wives, this is a great resource for you to have.

Image courtesy of Peter Haken at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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