Dealing with Difficult Comments

Sometimes we get comments on our blogs that are challenging to deal with.

CMBA members were recently asked,

How do you respond to comments that are argumentative or that express views that contradict your theology?

Here’s what they had to say:

  • It depends on how argumentative. If they are name calling and generally being rude, I remove the post, contact the poster, and explain they are free to share their beliefs in a kinder way. Other than that, folks are welcome to share their perspectives. If someone gets on a roll (they won’t stop posting) I might ask them privately to create one last post and then let it go.
  • Other theologies? It depends on what we are talking about. Minor differences (non-essentials), I’ll respond with my beliefs to give readers the option of disagreeing. It also lets folks know where I’m coming from. Significant or hurtful theologies, I’m likely to remove and contact the poster.
  • If someone posts a comment that is completely disrespectful and not conducive to conversation, I will just delete their comment and that’s the end of it. It is completely acceptable to me for someone to disagree and express their views and opinions. As long as it is done in a respectful manner.
  • If their disagreement is from alternative religious views, I will express my beliefs but respect theirs as well. As long as the topic remains relevant to the post they’re commenting on, I would not remove them but I may stop replying.
  •  If they are respectful in how they express their disagreement (theological or otherwise), I approve the comments but then comment as well, elaborating on why I disagree. The best example would be when someone is having sex outside of marriage. I take the opportunity to encourage them to study God’s Word and to search their own hearts with regard to obeying the Lord. If they are mean-spirited, belligerent or use profanity in their comment, I typically don’t approve the comment.
  • I love it when people disagree with me! It’s an opportunity to test my theology, to find the holes, to figure out where I might be blind. I jump in full-on, which unfortunately often gets mistaken for defensiveness. But, the truth is, I’m just really passionate and excited to have someone to talk to about it.